I know.. There's irony in the title itself. How can dead people be peers? How can they peer pressure you? Let's keep an open mind in this discussion and also STORY TIME !!
Long long ago, there was a couple who worshipped God and were living peacefully with an occupation- farming. They were blessed with a son and a daughter. The son was given education, while the daughter was married at the age of 10 ..and why? Because their parents and relatives said that is how it's done. The son got married at the age of 16 to a girl of 10. The parents were happy, but the son wanted to grow his business and so, focused on his professional life with the help of his sister who was clever but lacked education. But his parents pressurized him for kids and so became a father to another boy and girl. He decided to raise them with equality but fell into the society's (and I mean relatives) and parent's pressure and so the girl had an early marriage and his son father's business .. and why? Because their parents and relatives said that is how it's done. The daughter a little educated began to see the inequality and decided to raise her daughter by providing her education if she had a daughter, so that she can become independent. The husband supported her but they were both blessed with two boys. So, they decided the boys should marry girls who are also well educated and independent like them. But these type of girls wanted to protest as they didn't want to marry early, but her mother ordered her to keep quite, which was exactly what was done to her by her mother ..and why? Because their parents and relatives said that is how it's done. But these husbands and wives saw a change of pattern which led to a change in society giving girls equal education and jobs but they had to marry early to the people the parents decide.. and why? Because their parents said that is how it's done.
The people whom we don't even know existed thousands of years ago are still ruling us, bullying us by a simple sentence.. That is how it's done.
If this is not pressure then what is? This is the pressure coming from the dead people through the alive ones saying you can't live your life your way. It is only possible if your way is also their way. They simply follow it because the same thing happened to them and that is how they were brought up. Where to study? What to wear? Which profession? so many things follow.. Do not fall into this vicious circle and keep it moving! Break free, learn to live, learn to have a life of your own, learn to love, learn to treat people equally, learn to face confrontation, learn to take chances, give chances. Believe in yourself. Believe that people are capable of change, learn to explain to people why they should chose your way. And the most important point of all "it's time to give the finger to all those relatives and tell them to suck the life out of someone else.".
Always remember the future should be your choices, not the orders and decisions of your ancients.
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