The other day, I was having a conversation with my friend and she told me she apologizes a lot. Sometimes she is not sure what she is apologizing about but it just comes out. The word "Sorry". It is a word misused drastically and repeatedly. I asked her what kind of things she apologizes for? She told me simple things.. like "when I tell a person I will call you back when I can and then call back after 2-3 days. I say sorry because I called so late". "When I want someone to pass the salt. I say sorry for asking them to do a thing for me". "I am so used to saying this all the time for no particular reason that even if I want to say "excuse me" to someone standing in my way. I call out "I am sorry can you please move."".
Why do we say sorry to someone? Probably when you hurt their feelings unknowingly. Probably when you want them to know you feel bad for them. Probably when you know you have to do something that may effect them in a bad way but you can't help it. So why do we keep saying sorry for something that doesn't need you to be? There are most certainly two reasons..
One - Your self-esteem is low and you are pretty convinced that you always do the wrong thing that effects everybody directly or indirectly. You just cant make a decision for yourself without thinking about others. If it causes a slight problem to someone you tend to freak out, keep apologizing and hope to undo the task.
Two - You have the tendency to please everyone and always be on the good side. So it might be the silliest thing that may have no effect on someone's life but you tend to say sorry. These people may not even attempt to do anything selfish they always sacrifice stuff for others.
Give it a thought. Are you falling in any of these categories? Then its time to understand that you can't make everyone happy. If everyone thinks the way you are doing so right now the world might never move forward. Understand that what you have to do, is needed for your life and that there is nothing wrong in putting yourself first. Your needs matter as much as others. Take pride in your actions and act responsibly towards yourself.
Double your thank-yous, half your sorrys
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